Saturday, August 7, 2010

How To Be Alone

I've seen this video by Tanya Davis and Andrea Dorfman posted on several blogs over the past week. I only got a chance to watch it today via Susannah Conway. It's worth taking a few minutes to check it out.

And for those of you feeling inspired after, it's a real sweet treat to take yourself to the movies on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon. Have a great weekend!

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S said...

This is exactly what I am struggling with these days. Watching this made me cry because re-learning how to be ok being alone is the absolute worst part of a break-up. Thanks for sharing.

Sharlene T. said...

I'm a loner, by nature, and always cherish my times when I can do my own thing without answering to anybody... breakups are hard but that's the time to get reacquainted with yourself and find someone who answers your needs without you giving up yourself to make them happy... great video... thanks for sharing... come visit when you can...

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alessandra said...

It's beautiful and it inspired me a post, I'm a loner too, the only thing I wouldn't do is to sit in a restaurant all alone ;)

El said...

Cute video. I love being alone!

S said...

Alessandra, I thought I would never sit in a restaurant alone, either, until I went on a 2 week trip to Europe on my own. I found those dinners by myself in Paris and Italy to be delightful. Plus, more than once, I wound up meeting other solo travelers. Eating dinner by myself made me feel interesting and mysterious. I say try it! (Says the woman who is struggling with being alone. It's always so much easier to suggest things to other people than follow through on them myself.)

Tracy said...

Tear in my eyes... this video is so beautiful! What uplifting power it has! Though for some years I've been blessed to be in a very loving, supportive and creative partnership, I cherish time to myself--it is essential. And I well recall the years & years of lonely and learning to be OK with that. Thanks for sharing this, Anali. :o) Happy Days ((HUGS))

Suldog said...

A long time ago, following a break up, I did something that proved to be invaluable in getting back to being a happy person. I made a list of all the things I truly like to do. I then went about doing one or two of them a day, as time would permit. And I taught myself that being by myself was just fine. While sharing experiences is very nice, happiness may be had when one is alone.

I've since given that advice to a few select people, and they've all reported that it helped.

Can-Can said...

What a great video. Thanks so much for sharing!
True to my Gemini nature - I love solitude and togetherness.
I started enjoying being alone when a teenager. My mother was so strict and on top of me, that anytime I could escape on my bike or for a walk was blissful. I am also an avid reader and that is a solitary act usually.
I started dining and walking and going to movies alone because my several of my friends were so constantly late or no-shows or would want to go some where I didn't even though I initiated the activity.
Now, I welcome companionships on my walks when it happens or on my journeys to the movies - but I will go walking, dning, movieing and shopping alone because I'm the best company I know.

SE'LAH... said...

great video - thanks for sharing.

hope your new project is going well. one love.

josephine said...

what a cool video! something that's definitely to be encouraged, i think. in fact two girlfriends and i were bonding over how much each of us really savors our alone time.

Chris said...

I LOVE This!! It is not only beautiful but speaks volumes to those of us who find ourselves alone from time to time. Reflection is good for the soul.

Sharon said...

I can't even remember how I came to find this tonight, but I sure am glad that I did. Wow! It's beautiful. Thank you.

Anali said...

s - I'm so sorry that you're going through such a difficult time. Breakups suck. I hope you'll feel like yourself again soon.

sharlene - Glad you liked the video. If life is one big lesson, or a series of lessons, we get times when we learn how to be with others and times when we look more inward. I guess all we can do is go with the flow and learn what we can.

alessandra - Loved your post! I'm a bit of a loner myself, but even still, it's taken me time to get comfortable with going out and doing things on my own.

el - I'm more outgoing now than when I was younger, but I still find that it's my alone time that often re-energizes me.

Anali said...

s - I agree that traveling alone is really fun! I think I meet more people that way.

tracy - The video really moved me too, but I almost didn't post it. So glad that I did!

suldog - Great idea and advice! It's really interesting reading these comments and seeing how we all have to take a step back, breathe, and learn to be happy again after a breakup.

can-can - Thanks so much for this comment! I have the same pull of solitude vs togetherness sometimes. Even though I'm a Virgo. : )

Anali said...

se'lah - It's going really well. Right now I don't feel comfortable writing about it, but when it's done, it will be interesting to post about it and let you all know what I've been up to!

josephine - Such a creative effort! So glad that they created it and put it out there.

chris - "Reflection is good for the soul." So true!

sharon - So glad you stopped by! You're welcome. ; )

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